Wednesday, 23 October 2013

Bad Girl Going Good

You've been a bad kid. You've made your parents unhappy. You can see that, and yet you repeat yourself. What high you get out of it, you don't know. You have done things that are undo-able, unforgivable, and yet they forgive you, you don't know why. You used to be a good kid. Other Moms used to tell their kids to be like you.  Your friends used to look up to you. Where you wavered, you don't know. Your grades fell, and they still forgive you. Everything you did, every secret you kept, they forgave you for all of it. You never told your mom about your misdeeds. She came to know about them from other sources. She was shattered. She confronted you. You lied even further. When you ran out of lies, you just kept mum till she knew that you had confessed. She scolded you, she tried to help you out. You cried, and again you repeated yourself. What high you got, you don't know.

Now she tells you to be like that friend of yours. You realize that stones have turned, it's not how it used to be. It's the complete opposite now. You took everything they gave you for granted, and now karma is getting back at you. But still you barely listen to them and do things that hurt them. Hurt them to such an extent that your mom breaks down and your dad feels helpless. But you remain adamant, and yet they loved you, you don't know why. You never understood why they felt what they felt, why you never listened to them, why you got detached, why you became the good girl gone bad, why you staggered in front of your own parents, why you broke their trust, why you took their irrevocable and unconditional love for granted, why you did what you knew was incorrect, why you troubled them to such an extent that their trust in you dwindled. 

But today, that's all going to change. You're going to regain that trust of theirs before it diminishes completely. You're going to listen to her. You're going to watch yourself and try not to hurt them because they're the only people who're going to love you till their last breath, and you need to understand that, respect that.

Mental note to self: Remember that you need to regain their trust. Stop taking them for granted. Try to be at your best always. Talk to them, interact with them. Listen to them. Don't turn a deaf ear.


Monday, 22 July 2013

Letting Go

We all have such people in our lives that make it difficult for us to sleep, eat or breathe. They make it difficult for us to live, period. Of course the solution to such people is pretty simple: get rid of them. We stop talking to them, start avoiding them or simply decrease the amount of conversation or contacts we previously used to have with them.
But it starts becomes difficult for us when we love that person unconditionally and we realize that they don’t. Instead, they start hurting us- intentionally, or unintentionally- whichever. But they start hurting us, nonetheless and we realize that they’re no good for us. We know that they cause us pain- physical, or emotional. We know that they start giving us sleepless nights. We keep thinking about them day and night, and the problem is, that it’s not in a good sense. We keep stressing over why they have become this way, why they are doing what they are doing. Why, why, why? They start invading our sane space and start occupying most of our mind. We find it difficult to focus over more vital things in our lives.  But what’s the big deal in that too? Just avoid them. The big deal is that we’re just too selfish to let go of them because we need them if we are to live. We need them irrationally in our lives- or so we think. Whatever it is we do, we keep wondering what would they be doing right now? How cool it would have been had they been here. Then we bang our heads for thinking that way because we know they aren’t thinking about us. We know that they’re never going to be here. We’re too stubborn to admit that they have already let go of us. We keep hoping and praying that someday we would be the same as we were with them back then. But in the back of our heads, we all know that it’s never going to be the same again.
If you’re the kind of a person who likes to live in the what could have been life, then sorry. I don’t have any advice to give you, and most probably you will continue to live in your little shell for the rest of your life. God bless you, if you snap out of it eventually. But if you’re the kind of person who likes to move on and stop hurting, if you decide to get better someday, sometime, then maybe what I have to say next will help you. Go lay down on your bed, eyes shut, lights off, music off, no distractions, and think. Think if you try and amend things with them, will it ever be the same again? Are you ready to forgive them fully and begin with a fresh start, or is it possible that you might negotiate with them and manipulate them over their mistakes for the rest of time? Ask your close friends, or family what they think about your situation, and then consider each option. But the tricky part is to be impartial. You have to be completely true to yourself. Because you're thinking about yourself here. Your happiness is the topmost priority right now. You have to remember that people will be happy around you, only if you are happy. This will not only put your mind to peace, but will also make you feel good about yourself.
When you finally have all your answers with yourself, even if it takes you weeks to gather your answers, it is finally the time where you get to decide. The best part about this is that there’s no right or wrong. You know what you want and so you can choose for yourself. You are the best judge of your relationship with that person because no one can understand how you truly are feeling, even if you try to describe it.
In the end, the decision is yours and you have to decide for yourself. The sad part is that no one can do that for you. Other people can only advice you, but you are the sole person who knows what is good for you, and only you. Whatever you decide, always remember that the priority of the decision is your happiness, the rest is secondary. As long as you are happy, nothing else matters.

Friday, 14 June 2013

Ignorance Is Bliss.

"Okay so the story goes like i have been hearing a lot of people saying tht m an ugly duckling. i dont know hw to respond."

Dear anonymous person,

I found this picture yesterday and I think it's completely apt for your situation. There are people out there who have absolutely nothing to do. So they just go ahead making snide comments about other people. They are just a bunch of low lives who think they've got it all figured out, but they are the actual ones who need help. In a mental asylum. Believe me. I, of all the people, should know this because I've been a victim of such remarks a lot. But do you know what I do? I pay no heed.
As long as you are truly confident of yourself, that's all that matters. And the rest can go rot in Hell. The more attention you pay towards them, the longer they're going to carry on. And just as soon as you stop listening to them, they'll grow bored and move on. Because they have nothing better to do. You don't need anyone judging you because they don't know who you are. And the people who love you no matter what, are always going to be there for you and that's all that matters. Trust me on this.
You don't need to get all brashy with them because, as they say, it's futile to argue with a fool. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience! You gotta do what's right for you. No one else is walking in your shoes.

Hope things turn in your favour soon. Do let me know :)

Saturday, 4 May 2013

Shoo away the boredom!

Okay, so I'm super excited. I checked my drive today and I found a few pending responses to the 'finding nemo' Google document. The first question goes like this- "Bored out of my mind. Maybe a post about how to pass time? Or any fun stuff to do rather than just laze around and have coffee. Thanks :)"
Before I start, I would just like to warn you- don't have TOO much coffee. It isn't good for your system. Details here.

I bet I can relate to you. You're probably just having 'one of those days' when you don't feel like doing anything. Believe me, I know exactly how that feels. So here goes a list of things that I often do when I'm bored out of my mind:


I believe there's nothing better than a good book on such days. Now the kind of book you want to read depends upon your personal choices and moods. If you're feeling low and depressed, you'd probably want to read something light- like The Fault In Our Stars by John Green, If You Could See Me Now by Cecelia Ahern and the series of Bridget Jones' Diary by Helen Fielding.
If you like stories that tackle the society, then you must read To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee, A Thousand Splendid Suns by Khaled Hosseini and The Color Purple by Alice Walker.
When you feel like reading some teenage drama, then don't forget to give these books a shot- Stalk Me by Jillian Dodd, The Girl Next Door by Selene Castrovilla and Love Story by Jennifer Echols.
As for those who haven't read any books yet, and are scared of the long pages printed monotonously in black ink, you can simply opt for The Diary Of A Wimpy Kid series by Jeff Kinney. They're hilarious, and they'll get you hooked.


Music is a great escapism from the world. Just pop in your favorite album into the CD player and there you go! You can forget all about the inhabitants of this planet and just lose yourself in your own thoughts and emotions.


You all know what you're good at- be it singing, dancing, art or whatever. So when you have a few months ahead of you, and there's not much you plan on doing, save up some money by working somewhere or helping your parents out in some chores and get some professional training for what you love. Like I like dancing, so I've learnt Bharatnatyam- the Indian classical dance- for four years. It's good to learn something apart from the scholarly textbooks which every so often become boring.


When you feel lazy and have nothing to do, just do some exercise. Go for a run, hit the gym, or just simply turn up the music and dance away to glory. Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals that may leave you feeling happier and more relaxed. You may also feel better about your appearance and yourself when you exercise regularly, which can boost your confidence and improve your self-esteem.


Is there any better way of passing your time other than hanging out with your pals? Go out for a walk, shop in the mall, catch a film or just go and meet new people. 
You can also catch up with your long lost friends with whom you were in touch all through elementary school. They'll feel good to hear from you again and you'll do too. 
P.s. When I say socialize, I don't mean virtually. I mean it really. Don't just sit in front of the computer, make plans and go and actually see them. It's way better that way.

I think I have covered up almost every way I could think of to pass time. Have some more ideas? Don't forget to drop them in the comments below!

Saturday, 20 April 2013

Love Thyself.

Yesterday, I was sitting in my room, brainstorming over what I'm going to write about next. I literally pulled at my hair, for I couldn't think of one topic decent enough to start with. All my ideas seemed like a complete waste of time, and the rough drafts that I had prepared felt like crap. I had no idea as to what my next post could be. I felt so low and disappointed that I thought there was no future with this blog. After all the positive responses I got, I still doubted myself, I don't know why. But then it hit me- All this while I had been searching, searching, searching, what I didn't realize was that the answer lies within- Love Thyself. It's something what we've been told over and over again- be confident of yourselves. But when it comes to those situations where you feel so low and so dubious of yourself, it's really hard to 'love yourself'. Trust me, I know that feeling. And this is just a small incident when I thought I couldn't do it. There have been many more.
What needs to be remembered is that it'll come to you, but all in good time. You just need to be patient enough. I mean, failure comes to all, doesn't it? In fact, success comes only to those who have survived failure. But failing doesn't mean we lose hope and think less of ourselves. You try, and you learn where you were mistaken. That's a step towards success, as it is. That low self esteem screws your confidence up and then there's no hope for achievement. I learned that the hard way. The first step in attaining something, is by believing that you can do it. Confidence is one such state of mind when nobody can stop you from gaining what you deserve. That confidence, it only comes when you're proud of who you are. (Disclaimer: overconfidence and haughtiness is hazardous!)
There are times when you think that your hard work is going down the drain. Even after working day in and day out, you don't get the results you were hoping for. But remember, honey. It's not the end of the world. There are also times when you become quite unsure of something that you plan to do. "What will they say?" This thought keeps haunting your sanity. But at times like this, you just gotta let yourself go with the flow and let your heart take charge of your directions because often your mind starts to think too much, and our true emotions remain hidden. After all, Marilyn Monroe's got it right- "it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than to be absolutely boring." All you have to do is trust your instincts and have faith in yourself, and you'll certainly reach where you were meant to be.
Then there's the issue of those who just don't think of themselves as anything. They blindly follow what others say or do and that's all they are- an imitation of someone or somebody. As long as you are true to yourself, it's awesome. But just as soon as you lose track of yourself, and start treading over someone else's trails, it's a waste of your time, because these trails will lead you nowhere. Doing things just because everyone's doing it is just stupid. Desperately trying to be 'cool' is just being a wannabe. I'm sorry if you're one of them. I don't mean to offend anybody. But it's the truth. Why can't we just be ourselves and be true to who we really are? I believe that having the courage to be unabashedly yourself makes you the real deal.

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Thursday, 11 April 2013


Hi there! I am Avantika Chaturvedi and I like writing. Currently, I’m in the middle of a novel- that I don’t think will ever get completed. So I thought of taking up some other way to become a published writer.
And then the hunt to a blogging topic started- when I zeroed on in teenage help, then the big question was the name of my blog. I know ‘Finding Nemo’ isn’t anything original. But I have a little explanation to do. I chose this name because the word ‘Nemo’ reminds us of a little fish with a broken fin. And that’s exactly what we are. Adults don’t think we’re mature enough to handle responsibilities or take decisions, while at the same time, kids look up to us. We often tend to lose track of who we are and it's difficult to get back on the right path. And in the process of establishing ourselves once again, we get hurt, and sometimes the damage done takes too much time to repair. The ocean, our world is huge. And we often forget the way back. Because everywhere we look, it’s just the same. It’s water all around us. So, my main motivation here is helping out those in trouble and letting my twitchy fingers do some talking. 
I do have one confession to make, though. I am a chatterbox. And when it comes to writing, I can go on and on and on, without realizing how my reader is actually reacting to my crap. So do me a favor, dear. Please do help me in making my posts a little less boring because this is my first time as a blogger. But no hatred, please. I'm a little too sensitive to strong remarks. Constructive criticism is more than welcome. That way, we create a symbiotic relationship. I will help you with your problems, and you can help me back by telling me where I wavered. 

Now let me tell you something about this blog. I'm going to post on common issues that we teenagers go through day to day. Be it as little as a bad friend, or as massive as self destruction, I'll try to write something that will empower you and guide you to a better door.


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